Can I tell you a secret?
I haven’t been able to wear my wedding ring in over TEN years.
Almost the entire length of my marriage.
Isn’t that sad?
I love my wedding ring. Just looking at it in my jewelry box made me want to cry.
So I stopped looking at it.
See, my ring was perfect size for me when I got married. Then I got pregnant and gained weight. More weight than I should have. And it didn’t end there. I stress ate. When we went through financial stress, I ate. When we had two high risk pregnancies, I ate. When we struggled with family relationships, I ate. I ate lots of comfort foods. Lots of junk food. It tasted good People!
When we were dating, my husband (then boyfriend) gave me a promise ring. It was a little big and fit on my larger finger. I had intended to have it resized but I was also wearing my mother’s wedding ring which fit the smaller finger so I wore both. When I couldn’t wear my mother’s wedding ring or my own anymore, I found that I could wear my promise ring as my wedding ring.
I considered having my wedding ring resized on numerous occasions, but there was always an excuse not to — couldn’t afford it, what if I lost the extra weight, etc.
So I put my wedding ring away.
Then something miraculous happened.
I began my journey of taking baby steps to become a better me.
I didn’t start the journey because of the wedding ring since I didn’t think about it most of the time. Out of sight, out of mind.
No, I took this journey to make my health better.
Can I share the results with you?
After nine months, I lost enough weight that I can now wear my original wedding ring.
Do you know what I did the day I could slip that ring on my finger?
Tears of joy that I can wear something of great sentimental value to me.
Tears of anger that it took me so long to get around to starting this journey.
Tears of shame that I let the my mind produce overwhelming thoughts that kept me from trying.
Tears of happiness that my hard work is paying off.
The thing is… you can do this too. It’s not too late. And it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You don’t have to climb a mountain to become better. All you have to do is begin with baby steps.
What about you?
What keeps you from staring this journey?
What would you like to make better about yourself?